When he did he began to do things he never did with me, things he said were irrelevant and useless.
He became lovey-dovey and did lots of PDAs, posting them online with his new wife and tagging me on them.
I knew he just wanted to prove to me that she was better than me and he was happy with her, but I just ignored him.
People tend to flaunt second marriages and relationships and do things they never did in their previous relationships just to prove to their exes that they are happy.
When most times, it's not true; they are just keeping up appearances and doing whatever they can so that the relationship doesn't end and they are seen as failures.
I kept the receipts of all he was doing because I knew it was a matter of time before he got tired.
I knew him and knew that the things I tolerated from him none of these Generation women would tolerate.
Someone that can't lift a finger and you have to pick up after him.
I decided to tolerate his excesses and remain married to him.
One day he woke up one day and said he was ending our marriage.
I heaved a sigh of relief and moved on.
He seemed surprised that I didn't cry or beg but sometimes people don't know how you are holding on by a tiny thread.
Just like I expected, things fell apart between them, and they fought dirty online.
Now he's back saying he wants me back but I'm done with him.
I've asked him to find another young blood and move on with her because, after tasting the peace of mind I experienced after he left, I don't see myself returning to picking up after him like a newborn.
Now his family is saying that they are disappointed in me for not taking him back.
They say I should seize the opportunity to win back my husband.
Please, between both of us, who should win the other back?
Who left the other?
The funny thing is that he is still expecting me to run after him and pick up after him.
Someone who left me for 3 years thinks I'm still the same person I was before he left.
I'm thankful that he left because I didn't know how much longer I could have held on.
I wish him well.
I hope he finds someone to tolerate him but that person isn't me.
I think I agree 100 percent with this; many people who end relationships or marriages work too hard to prove they are happy.
We see them online trying so hard to prove that they are happy.
People who end very long relationships and get married a few months later to someone else also do this.
They just want to prove that they are happy not knowing that no one cares.