So, I’m in a relationship with this man from Esan, Edo state. He is a widower; his wife died during labor. On my part, I am a divorcee without a child. I divorced because of health differences. This Edo man wanted to get married to me, but something happened at the beginning of this year. He owns some properties and is also into real estate. One day, he told me he wanted to get an estate house worth 20 million. I was glad and encouraged him to do so. When he brought the papers, I noticed the next of kin was his daughter. I was upset but had mixed feelings.
My mother married my dad, and he had a son out of wedlock. So, after their marriage, my mum asked him to bring the child in. My mum took this boy as hers, and my dad bought everything in his name. Later, this boy sold everything and left my mum with nothing. My sister and I just finished building her a house this month.
My ex also had a daughter that he literally wrote everything to her name, including electronics. And now, this wants to happen again? Truth be told, I wasn’t happy, but he noticed it and asked me about it. I told him nothing. By this time, we had already started marriage counseling in my church. I thought, at least since he has a lot of properties and has written his children as next of kin, he would have involved me in his future plans. I was selfish, I know, but I was also scared.
This man then told his parents and siblings that I am struggling over properties with his children. Honestly, I am not. I have been taking good care of these children. I don’t see them as another woman’s children. I love them so much because I am a teacher and have a strong relationship with children.
Now, this man insults me when I do anything wrong, calls me a prostitute, checks my phone, and bodyguards me, among other things. His family told him they don’t want to see me again. They told him I’m a bad person pretending to be good. When he told me this, I said he shouldn’t worry, that we are going to pray, and God will turn the hearts of his family. But he told me his mum is tough. I started praying, but I noticed I was alone. So, I gave up.
Where I need advice is this: this man hides me from his friends and family now. He can’t boast about me like before and also doesn’t want me to date someone else. Meanwhile, I have some serious suitors who want to marry me. He can’t make a move but also doesn’t want me to date. I actually don’t know how to double date. Please, I need your advice.
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