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Am I Too Harsh If I Take Action Against Him?

There's This guy I have been dating for some years now. When we met, he had nothing! I repeat nothing! He was perching with a friend and sleeping on the sofa. 

My aunty's house was empty but she didn't want to rent it out or have anyone stay there. I was able to convince her to allow him to stay there and this even took 2 weeks because she just wasn't interested. I finally got the key and went with him. He was carrying only one bag. 



There was no bed in the house so I had to go for a bed at my dad's place and you can imagine the kind of questions I was asked. This guy wasn't working and was 23 then. I was working in my mother's shop and was 20. I convinced her to employ him at the warehouse. 
Aunty, I did all these to make him comfortable because he was truthful to me from the beginning that he had nothing growing up and life hadn't been easy for him. Things started picking up for him. 
I got a scholarship to study abroad. He could come as a dependent but my parents said he'll have to find money on his own because he's not married to me. They can only support my husband. I told him to try and do something, even if it's small, just to marry me. The time was getting closer but he still wasn't getting the money. I asked him one day and he asked me if he should go and steal in order to marry me? I didn't ask again. 

I left for school and our communication was on and off for about 5 years. I even thought he had moved on so never told him when I came back to Ghana. But 3 days later, he came to visit and we restarted everything again. 

He's been giving me attitude of late because he asked for help to enter into the army and I told him my uncle has had a bad experience with such things so I don't dare ask him. I spoke to my uncle and he said there are certain short courses he can do to help him get good jobs faster. He also sent me GHC2000 as seed money for him because he feels bad he can't help him. I topped up with 100 and was going to give it to this guy yesterday.

I called my boyfriend several times but he didn't pick. I got to his place and he didn't hide that he was there with another woman. This girl even told me, "wotime atwam ooo" (your time is past). In an apartment I paid for him just 3 months ago. 

I don't think this love thing some people have been preaching is real. It's all lies just to make people spend on you. I've told him I'll go for the rent advance from the landlord but he thinks I'm joking and told me to do my worse. 


Even if I'll date again, he shouldn't be an African

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