Life lesson.
I lost my marriage because of social media I would just like to draw the attention of women to the use of social networks, especially those who are married. After 13 years of living together, I have just separated from the father of my 2 children.
At first, IT, the Internet and so on, said absolutely nothing to me. But when I discovered all these things that changed my daily life, I started to get addicted. Because of his profession, my husband is often absent and social networks have allowed me to evacuate the anxiety linked to his recurring absences ... And then I met on the net of a gentleman who asked me in friendship.
Over the days, I couldn't do without our conversations. He made me laugh a lot, which I really needed, gave me advice too. And then there came a time when I couldn't do without him. When I didn't see it online, it was a disaster. Without knowing it, this gentleman had replaced my husband a little bit. I watched for the slightest connection from him. And yet, at no time did he flirt with me.
It lasted 3 months and one day, when we conversed, he told me that he could no longer hide his feelings for me, that I was the woman of his life ... At 39, my heart was beating like a 15 year old kid ... It had been so long since I had felt such a feeling. But I was afraid because I lived as a couple and it was not suitable ... Our exchanges therefore began to become sensual, passionate, intense ... I clung to this man, I loved him without having seen him ... And then my husband was on vacation.
I had to reduce my conversations with my love of the net, especially in the evening. But sometimes I hid in the toilet to converse with him, for just a few minutes and it felt good. But one day ... I made a stupid mistake. My husband was watching a soccer game. He was very focused. An opportunity for me to exchange with my lover who had become like a drug for me.
I took my computer to surf locked in our room. A few seconds later, someone knocked on the door. It was my daughter. Her little brother had just fallen in the shower, he was bleeding. Panicked, I did not take the time to close my computer ... and it was that day that everything I was in ... My husband left the football match he was watching on television, to come and see what was going on exactly. In addition, it was half-time, and he had 10 minutes.
Then he went to our room. My computer and my phone were hanging around on the landscaped desk and there he discovered the sensual photos that I had started to send. In an Olympian calm, he did not hesitate to converse with my friend. That our son had just hurt himself in the shower ... He sent him lots of "I love you" to which my friend also replied ... Then he apologized and got up quietly as if nothing had happened.
He was more afraid than harm to my son. After sleeping, I went to the room. My husband was lying on the bed while in the living room, you could hear his favorite team playing on TV. It was not in his habit ... I asked him the question of why he came to bed suddenly. He replied in these terms: - "I followed a soap opera more interesting than this football match on your computer." The shame of my life, the confusion, the fear ... He got up, took his keys, and left the house to return only the next day ... The days that followed were the most difficult.
My man no longer spoke to me. It lasted almost two weeks. Then one morning, he just asked me to leave his house. What I refused. So it was he who left, leaving me the children. I did everything to come back but without a way! Today, I lost my home for nonsense and I regret it. After a year and a half, I lived alone because having no income he finally recovered the children since he refused to give me something to take care of. And one day, I connected and I explained everything to my love of the net.
He was sorry for me but had been frank: married for 7 years and father of four children, he loved his little life, even if I attracted him enormously. I think he wanted me to be his mistress, but I didn't want anything anymore. I ended up blocking it everywhere, on the internet, on my phone. Today, I want to turn the page on this course error. I pray to the Lord to forgive me. I know that in the Bible it is written that the man must not leave his wife unless she commits adultery.
Certainly, I had fallen in love with a man other than my husband I had indeed sent him daring photos but I had no intimate connection with him, I had never even met him since he lived in another country ... I had committed adultery only in thought but was that enough for my husband to no longer want me?
He had already taken another woman, but I had mandated my sisters with him but he had categorically refused them. My advice is to ask women to pay attention to social networks.
They can build couples, but as with us, they can also destroy the peace.
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