1. KNOW THEIR DREAMS.
Find out what is his/her personal goals so that you be supportive. Such a person knows there is more to life than sex and marriage
2. EXPECT CULTURE TO BE SCRUTINIZED
Such a person is educated and exposed hence will not follow culture blindly. Whatever way of life you suggest, it has to make sense
3. EXPECT TO BE DEMOCRATIC, NOT DICTATORIAL
Such a person is used to making decisions in career, used to professionalism, ethics and collaborative work; you cannot impose your views just because this is marriage. You have to consult, involve and inform him/her
4. KNOW THAT THE PERSON VALUES MORE THE THINGS THAT MONEY CANNOT BUY
Such a person who can easily finance their own life without you, is not with you primarily for money but companionship. He/she wants the emotional connection, a sense of home, true intimacy and a friend in the form of a spouse
5. MAKE HIM/HER FEEL SEEN
Appreciate and celebrate all that person's growth and wins. Let him/her come home to someone who sees their shine
6. DON’T ATTACK THEIR AMBITION
Don't fight, ridicule, mock or discourage their hunger for growth in their career or their desire to further their studies. Find a way how your ambitions can merge. Killing one's dream for the sake of marriages often leads to lack of fulfillment
7. BE SECURE IN YOURSELF TO AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICTS
Such a person's greatness will be seen by many. They will be celebrated, awarded and admired outside the home. Do not show jealousy or discomfort, you are the one that he/she is married to
8. ALLOW THEM SPACE TO NETWORK WITH OTHERS
Such a person might want to network with those in their career or in business. Sometimes they will go for meetings, events or workshops with or without you. Don't make it an issue. Get to spend quality time together and then give each other space to network
9. BE MENTALLY STIMULATING.
Such a person might want challenging conversations. As you talk about chores, responsibilities and domestics; also have conversations about deep topics, learn from each other
10. RESPECT THEIR HARD WORK.
Don't take such a person for granted. Don't misuse their hard earned money, talk down at their work or feel entitled