1. Many grew up thinking sex is a sin and so they struggle to shift their mindset about sex in marriage.
2. No flirting.
3. Thinking that the goal of sex is largely for procreation. Yet it is a celebration of love to be enjoyed.
4. The false belief that one cannot be saved and sexy.
5. Fixation on one sexual position. No creativity.
6. Judgement from spouse when one expresses their naughty side.
7. Many engaged in pornography and masturbation before getting married so that they don’t sleep around only for that habit to interfere with their sex life in marriage.
8. The false belief that to enjoy sex is evil as if sex belongs to the world. No! Sex is a gift from God.
9. Over spiritualization of life. Yet God cares about every aspect of our life; emotional, financial, professional, physical, social and even sexual - not just spiritual
10. Boring attires in bed in the name of being saved.
11. Poor body image disguised as humility yet it is actually low self-esteem. Low self-esteem negatively affects sexual life.
12. Boredom where life revolves around work - church - home instead of also going out on dates.
13. Superstitions such as sex is only Godly when it happens on the marriage bed, so the couple doesn't get to create new experiences in other locations.
14. Seeing sex as a taboo topic so no talking about sexual fantasies.
15. Expectations for faithfulness whilst making faithfulness boring. Faithfulness shouldn't be a struggle. When sex-life in marriage is fun, it reduces the power of temptations.
16. Rigidity in sex, making sex as a duty or obligation instead of a playful activity for two married people blessed by God.
17. Judgement on your spouse's past, affecting how you view him/her.
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