If you are waiting to have it all before you can become romantic in your marriage, then understand that you know nothing about romance. Should you have (all the) money and suddenly become romantic, it's going to be a fake romance. Money-induced or money-triggered romance is fake romance.
Romance isn't money but a mental disposition which flows from a personality's dynamism. Personality is everything in marriage. In fact, romance is a person. Please understand that.
Romance isn't money but a mental disposition which flows from a personality's dynamism. Personality is everything in marriage. In fact, romance is a person. Please understand that.
Not all rich and wealthy people are romantic. In fact, many of them are some of the worse persons to make a spouse. While there are romantic rich or wealthy persons, there are also unromantic rich or wealthy folks.
Romance isn't about what one has, but who one is. So who are you? Poverty and 'broke-ness' can't hinder a couple's romantic disposition if they have it in them, just as riches and wealth can't guarantee a romantic atmosphere in a marriage if the two spouses don't have it in them.
While I agree that money can enhance the romantic prowess of a couple, however, it's not its catalyst. Personality, not money is the true catalyst of romance in relationship and marriage. If you are not a romantic person, forget it even if you have all the money of this world.
I have shared it with you countless times here that I started my marital journey from little or nothing. When I married, I was a low-income earner who lacked many basic things of life. But despite that, my wife and I were very romantic. We ate together, bathed together, slept together, sat together, cooked together, did the house chores together, prayed together, played together, gisted together and had electrifying sex together.
Of course, as a couple we wished we had more goodies of life. We wished we lived in a bigger and better apartment located in one of the choicest places in Lagos. We wished we had a car. We wished we had stewards working for us. We wished we ate more sumptuous meals. We wished we had plenty money in our bank accounts. We wished we had very successful lives. But we didn't have them then. Despite all those missing things, we were happy and romantic. We made the most of our lives at that level.
Some evenings, Taiwo and I walked around our neighbourhood. We would walk holding each other's hands with our bodies clasping unto each other as we laughed. We would walk around for about 10-15 minutes gisting about any thing. We hardly bought something on the way because we didn't have much. On a few occasions we bought little suya (N100-N200). We would eat it with all joy while talking and strolling. When we finally retire to bed at night, we will sleep happy to have been married to each other and happy to have each other as a great companion.
Romance spices up marriage. It makes it appealing, sizzling and interesting. Despite being married for years now, I always relish the moment to be with my wife after work. We still miss each other during the day. We still call each other on the phone. We still chat up each other on WhatsApp. We are not tired of each other. We still gist together. We still bathe together (when we're both available). We still eat together. We still enjoy each other's company. That's romance! Are you a romantic person?
Once again, romance isn't money, but a person!