HOW A LOT OF MEN ARE NOT PREPARED FOR MARRIAGE

 1. Most men grew up without a good relationship with their father, some have no relationship with their dad

2. Most men did not grow up watching their father in good relations with their mother; hence have no good reference of how a good husband is like

3. A lot of men at one point innocently and deeply loved a woman, only for her to break his heart and made him put walls around himself to prevent future disappointment by a woman. He ends up having walls even when married to his wife if he doesn't heal

4. A lot of men have been used by women financially, to the point that they think women are only after money or only treat a man well when he has money. If he doesn't heal, in marriage he will use his money as a weapon

5. A lot of men see society as having double standards, favoring women in pursuit if feminism; this makes them have a negative or skeptical view towards the wife if these feelings are left unchecked

6. A lot of men experimented with sex before marriage, many with multiple women. If he doesn't heal, this will bring a challenge in his marriage in the form of lust, affairs, unrealistic expectations and the viewing of the wife as a sex object

7. Most men have grown up in a society that tells them it is weakness to open up or share their struggles; making the man suffer silently in marriage, not involving the wife

8. Most men did not have a mentor or male figure who taught them how to be a man. This made them do life through trial and error; hurting self and others in the process. Making the man ashamed of his mistakes and rigid to teach in marriage. This is why a lot of men struggle to accept correction, especially from their wife

9. Most men grew up in a society that tells them the worth of a man is his money. This has made many men focus on money and property as they ignore the important work of building a bond with the wife and the children

10. Most men because of no good examples, have grown up thinking a family is for social status; not for companionship. Hence, when the man marries and gets to have children, he relaxes and sees no point in emotionally connecting with them since he has already achieved the goal of being respected in society

11. When a man and woman are about to get married, the woman has a bridal shower to be prepared for marriage; the man tends to have nothing. Making the wife better prepared for marriage than the man, who is the head of the family

12. When a man and woman get a child, she gets to have a baby shower to equip her with knowledge on parenthood, the man has nothing. Making the mother better suited for parenting than the father

Gentleman, were you adequately prepared for the family you are leading?
If your husband is behaving badly, if you as a man are struggling; maybe it is time to analyze your past and how you became the man you are today.

It is time to unlearn the pain and heart ache, learn what love and responsibility looks like, and relearn the good values in life that your ego made you forget