1. TAKE TIME TO BUILD FRIENDSHIP.
Get to know each other.
IF THE RELATIONSHIP IS MEANT TO BE, THERE WILL BE NO RUSH.
2. DON'T SAY 'I LOVE YOU' YET.
Don't rush, be patient and get to know the person well before saying 'I love you'.
3. WATCH OUT FOR WARNING SIGNS;
Look out for red flags while you're still in the friendship level.
FIRST KNOW YOURSELF, HAVE WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN AND WHAT YOU CAN PUT UP WITH AND WATCH OUT FOR ALL THAT DURING YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
RED FLAGS ARE SIMPLY THE THINGS YOU CANNOT ACCEPT BASE ON YOUR PERSON AND PUT WITH IN A SPOUSE.
4. LISTEN AND BE OBSERVANT!
Many people are not been observant of the person's Attitude, Pattern, and How He relates with his family and other people outside you.
Does the man love your family just as he claims to love you?
Does any of you have dependency?.
Does he have external responsibilities he is taking care of?
BE OBSERVANT OF THE PERSON, LIFESTYLE, CHARACTER, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE WHILE YOU ARE STILL IN YOUR FRIEND ZONE
NOTICE THE PATTERN OF THE SUBJECT OF THEIR CONVERSATION AND THEIR PATTERN OF PRIORITY.
5. WATCH THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
WHEN HE PICKS OFFENSE WHEN QUESTIONED ABOUT HIS BIBLE VERSE STUDY FOR THE DAY, IT IS A WARNING SIGN.
THE TRUE LITMUS TEST TO KNOW IF HE OR SHE HAS A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS HOW MUCH THE PERSON SUPPORTS YOU TO BE CLOSER TO GOD!
IF HE OR SHE IS COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR PRAYERLESS LIFE, THEN THEY TOO HAVE A PRAYERLESS LIFE.
THE EXTENT HOW A PERSON PUSHES YOU TO BE CLOSER TO GOD, IS THE SAME EXTENT TO WHICH THEY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.
DON'T LOOK FOR AN ACT OF GODLINESS, LOOK FOR THE FRUITS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT WITH POWER MANIFESTING RESULT
6. BEWARE OF PATTERNS.
Please, take time to do a thorough background check of whoever you're intending to have a future with.
ASK QUESTIONS ON SPIRITUAL MATTERS AND FAMILY TRADITIONAL PRACTICES IN THEIR FAMILY, TRY TO VISIT THEIR HOMETOWN.
BE SPIRITUALLY DISCERNING TO BEWARE OF SPIRITUAL TRANSFERENCE.
7. DO NOT START A RELATIONSHIP IN ISOLATION.
Do not start any dating in secret.
BE ACCOUNTABLE TO SOMEONE ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP
9. PRIORITIZE.
When your relationship with God is suffering because you're in a relationship, that's a warning sign that relationship is not from God for you.
ONE SUREST WAY TO KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOD'S WILL FOR IS WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS GROWING FAR MUCH BETTER THAN IT WAS WHEN YOU WERE STILL SINGLE.!
10. ARE YOU IN LOVE OR YOU ARE IN NEED?
Is the person truly in love with you?
Or
They are there to use you to achieve something for themselves?.
BE WISE! BE SMART! BE CALCULATIVE ! AS YOU'RE BEEN DISCERNING.
Do they love you for who you are? Your virtues and value as a person
Do they love you for what you have acquired for yourself or what they stand to gain by being with you?
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