Keeping your marriage fresh is hard work. Though you may be more in love with your spouse than ever, you have to make an effort to keep your connection and your sex life from growing stale.
With full-time jobs, parenting jobs, and endless day-to-day tasks, it's easy to fall into a comfortable (and let's face it — boring) routine with your spouse.
There are several practical techniques to spice up your marriage and rekindle the romance in your partnership.
With a bit of intentionality, you and your spouse can find simple ways to spice things up.
A healthy relationship requires communication, kindness, trust, and fun.
Below are what you can do to spice up your marriage
1. GO OUT ON DATES TOGETHER.
When did you and your spouse last go out on a date?"
Your marriage will not thrive if you spend ALL YOUR TIME being "Mommy" & "Daddy"! This is why many marriages become boring.
Children are a blessing but don't reduce your marriage to just raising children alone and paying bills.
You need to spend time as a " Husband " & "Wife" too... Balance is the key!
Make time for quality time.
Both of you need to INTENTIONALLY do things that make you enjoy each other's company. Give your children to a relative or close friend for some hours and have a nice time with your spouse.
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Taking breaks from your children is healthy, date night with your spouse is needed and essential.
2. WATCH FILMS TOGETHER,
3. GIST TOGETHER. Communication is the backbone of marriage. Make communication fun. Be excited to see your sweetheart, to hear about their day, and to spend time with them.
4. PLAY ROMANTIC GAME TOGETHER
5. ATTEND SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT TOGETHER,
6. ENJOY SEX TOGETHER,
7. TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER
Taking a shower together is a simple way to spice up your sex life. Taking time to shower together is both relaxing and sensual. Having your spouse wash your back or shampoo your hair helps to relieve pent-up tension after a long, hard day. Remember to take your time when lathering your spouse’s body.
8. HAVE SEX OUTSIDE YOUR BEDROOM. Your home has multiple rooms, so why isolate sex to just your bedroom? Have sex in the bathroom, in the sitting room, in the kitchen, and book a room in a hotel just for you and your spouse to make love
9. PLAY OR JOKE WITH EACH OTHER. Marriage is not a military ground. It is a place of love, romance, and fun.
10. BE KIND TO YOUR SPOUSE. KINDNESS IS SEXY!
11. TAKE A STROLL TOGETHER,
12. REJOICE TOGETHER,
13. LAUGH TOGETHER,
14. DANCE IN THE LIVING ROOM. After you put the children to bed, turn on “Your Song” and dance to it in your living room.
15. SING TOGETHER,
16. EAT TOGETHER,
17. SURPRISE YOUR SPOUSE. An unexpected gesture or gift is always welcome as long as it is something you know your partner will be interested in
18. DO EXERCISE TOGETHER,
19. SLEEP TOGETHER IN THE SAME ROOM,
20. PLAY FOOTBALL TOGETHER,
21. HAVE A SPA NIGHT. Give each other massages, put on some face masks, and enjoy a relaxing evening together
22. DO HOUSE CHORES TOGETHER,
23. PRAY AND SERVE GOD TOGETHER,
24. TAKE MORE PICTURES. The only pictures you’ll ever regret are the ones you never took. Take all the pictures you can, and set aside time to re-live those simple memories.
25. COMPLIMENT YOUR SPOUSE! Express your heart’s words. This is one of the kindest, most meaningful things you can do for your other half. Words carry a huge amount of power and purpose.
26. TALK ABOUT SEX
Share with your spouse what you want and need from your sex life. Tell him/her what you enjoy. If you had a great night of sex, say something. Compliment your spouse and encourage him/her to do it again.
If you want better sex with your spouse, then you must be willing to talk about it. While sitting on the couch, talk about what is working, what you wish your spouse did more often, and what you enjoy. Remember, our spouses are not mind readers. Let your spouse know what you like and how you like it.
27. LOOK AT EACH OTHER INSTEAD OF AT A SCREEN. Give your partner your undivided attention.
28. PUT YOUR PHONES AWAY. Spend an entire evening without your phones —your relationship will thank you.
29. ATTEND CHURCH SERVICES TOGETHER,
30. SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM TOGETHER,
31. READ QUALITY BOOKS TOGETHER & ATTEND MARRIAGE SEMINARS TOGETHER
32. DO SOMETHING SPONTANEOUS. Go on an adventure and have an exciting and romantic experience with your honey.
33. BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER AND CELEBRATE TOGETHER WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
34. BE ROMANTIC AT HOME
Plan a night at home to dress up and have dinner together. Dim the lights, light candles, play some romantic music, and get romantic and cozy in your home once the kids have gone to bed.
35. TRY SOMETHING NEW.
These activities include everything from trying new restaurants, taking up a new hobby, or traveling to a destination you have never been together.
Play a new game, listen to romantic music together, and cook a new meal as a team
Spend time together and reignite the intimacy.
36. LEARN AND SPEAK YOUR SPOUSE'S LOVE LANGUAGE
Learning and speaking your spouse's love language is one of the best things you can do to enhance your everyday life.
The 5 Love Languages:
✅Words of Affirmation: Offering supportive words, leaving love notes, or sending an “I’m thinking of you” text message during the day.
✅Acts of Service: Loading the dishwasher while you take a shower, arranging the sitter for date night, or offering to run to the grocery store
✅Receiving Gifts: Small tokens, flowers and surprises
✅Quality Time: Spending time together, eating dinner, date nights and grocery shopping together
✅Touch: Hold hands, foreplay
No one language is better than the others. Practicing each love language requires different interactions to make your significant other feel loved.
37. LOOK THROUGH WEDDING PHOTOS. Wedding photos can bring back feelings and memories from your special day you can’t get anywhere else.
Have Fun... Have Fun... & More Fun... Marriage Is A Place Of Love & Romance! Enjoy Your Marriage.
Doing These keeps your Marriage Fresh and lively and brings you & Your Spouse Closer.
Treat Your Spouse As Your Best Friend And A Treasure Not As Your Enemy.”
Love your spouse like there is no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, wake up and do it over again. Marriage Is A True Test Of Love!
YOUR MARRIAGE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT TO BE!
May The Lord Make Your Marriage A Heaven On Earth In Jesus' Name.
© PST Samuel Olagbenjo