Many ladies complain, “My man doesn’t talk to me.”
But have you ever paused to ask why?
Think about it.
Men are actively engaged in conversations with their buddies, laughing, sharing, and opening up. Yet, at home, they often become reserved, measured, and almost silent. What changes?
Today, I want to address this, and I promise it will positively impact your relationship.
Ladies, if you’re reading this, pay attention. I’ll be brief but it will be impactful.
Before a man will open up to you, he needs to see that you can handle his vulnerability.
It’s not about how much he loves you, it’s about how much he trusts you with his emotions.
You see, many women, unknowingly, destroy this trust with their words. How?
Weaponizing Vulnerability
A man shares a personal struggle with you, and in the heat of an argument, you throw it back at him as a weapon.
This is the quickest way to shut him down.
Betraying His Trust.
He confides in you about something personal, and the next thing, it becomes a topic of discussion with your girlfriends or family members.
Why would he share again if he knows his secrets aren’t safe with you?
Degrading Comments.
A man tells you he’s going through financial struggles, and in the next argument, you call him “broke” or something even worse.
Do you expect him to feel safe enough to confide in you again?
So you see, men don’t talk because they fear their vulnerability will be mishandled, misunderstood, or even mocked.
Men open up to their friends because their friends create a judgment-free environment.
Amongst his boys, he knows he can be vulnerable without fear of betrayal or attack.
They listen without judgment, offer advice, or sometimes just laugh it off together, making the load feel lighter.
At home, it’s different.
If a man senses that his honesty will be used against him or that his vulnerability will lead to criticism, he will withdraw.
Listen dear ladies, I know most of you sincerely don't know these things, but thank God you're knowing it now, so apply it.
Start by learning to control your words
Learn to speak wisely, especially during disagreements. The way you address your man in heated moments speaks volumes about how much he can trust you with his heart.
By all means, protect his vulnerability.
What your man shares with you should stay with you. It’s not for your girlfriends, siblings, or anyone else.
Show him that his secrets are safe with you and I'll advise you always affirm, don’t Attack.
When your man shares his struggles, affirm him. Say things like, “I know this is tough, but I believe in you, and we’ll get through it together.”
Words like these build trust and strengthen your bond.
Be His Peace!
Men already deal with enough pressure from the world. Be the one place he can run to for support, encouragement, and rest, not another source of stress.
Ladies, if you want your man to talk, start by creating an environment where he feels safe to do so.
Build trust with your words and actions. Never forget, a man who feels respected, understood, and protected will naturally open up to you.
Be the woman he can lean on in moments of weakness without fear of judgment or betrayal.
The strength of your relationship depends on your ability to protect his heart. You're a helper, so help him.
A man who doesn’t talk isn’t necessarily distant, he might just be waiting to feel safe enough to share his world with you.
Be that safe space!💯
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