When a baby is growing in the womb, the parents joyfully tell the baby "I love you" through the mother's stomach.
When the baby is born and is growing, the parents frequently tell the child "I love you", the baby feels the warmth.
When the baby becomes a child that can speak, the parents tell the child "I love you" and the child says "I love you too"
When the child grows into teenagehood, the parents say the words "I love you" less, the teenage child also stops saying "I love you" and acts as if saying "I love you" is not cool but deep down, the teenager wonders why mom and dad don't say "I love you" anymore.
When the teenager meets a fellow teenager, and they tell each other "I love you", there is alot of excitement that comes with it. This excitement causes some teenagers to fool around, sometimes to devastating consequences.
When the teenager grows into adulthood, he/she encounters a lover who says "I love you". Those words mean everything and they pull the child away from the parents. If it is a bad relationship and the parents advice against it, the child doesn't care, the child rebels against the parents and stays loyal to the lover who says "I love you", the first love. Usually this lover breaks the child's heart, damages the child's innocence, rips apart the child's dreams and maybe leave the child pregnant or as a dead beat father.
When the child tries to go back to the parents for comfort and guidance after the heartbreak, usually the parents rebuke the child harshly, the child is made to feel unwelcomed and even rejected because of the mistakes made.
When the child, now a full grown adult, feels hurt at home by the parents and walks alone, he/she enters into the dating scene where "I love you" is said casually, in plenty and cheaply to get intimate, to use and dump or just by people looking for a great temporary high. This messy dating scene leaves the child more heartbreaking. "I love you" loses meaning.
Eventually, this child as an adult finds someone whose "I love you" can be believed in fully or partially. They get married. The "I love you" withers away in marriage, the marriage suffers and as parents they repeat the cycle above.
When the child as an adult remembers how unloved his/her parents made him/her feel, the child does the bare minimum for the parents in their old age. The aged parents wonder, "Does our child love us anymore?"
Soon, death catches up on the parents, or the child who is now a married adult, or the spouse of the adult, or the children and at the funeral, people regret saying "I wish I said and showed love while they were alive"
Love is what we all need yet love is the one thing so many of us fail to give each other.
If you love someone, say it, show it, communicate it when they and you are still alive.
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